Begin your developmental program by establishing certain basic rules and levels of understanding
BE COMPLETELY HONEST… It is very easy to fool other people, but very difficult to fool yourself. When you stop being honest with yourself, your program will begin to fail.
BE PERSISTENT… Working part-time to develop yourself, means slow sporadic growth, which tends to promote discouragement and failure. Consistent effort will produce consistent results.
ACCEPT YOUR DECISIONS… Only you will be able to understand why you wish to accomplish something. Other people relate to your goals from their frame of reference, that includes their fears, needs and level of emotional maturity. You do not have to explain, excuse or apologize for anything you decide to do.
BE FAIR… You are a special individual, filled with unique feelings, thoughts and needs. You have the right to evolve your mind-body potential to its fullest extent. But at no time do you have the right to intentionally hurt or interfere with another person’s growth for the sake of your own. Of course, some of your decisions may hurt someone, but it is this person’s personal hang-ups that are responsible for this hurt, not your decisions. You cannot be responsible for other people’s hang-ups. (Example. A person wants to become a mechanic, but his parents, who have paid for his education, want him to become a doctor. Their motivation is relative to their needs and visions of his life. Their views on success and road to happiness are different than his. He has conflict, because he feels he owes his parents. But, it is his parents problem, not his, unless he makes it so. This is part of the “Validate or Invalidate” process. Is it a real problem, or have you just made it, a real problem).
ACCEPT CHOSEN RESPONSIBILITIES… Many individuals become aware of the need to develop themselves only after they have accepted certain responsibilities such as marriage, children and financial obligations. It is very important that these
responsibilities be considered when you outline your needs and goals. This is a time to compromise, since your life, by choice, now includes others.
MAINTAIN AN OPEN, FLEXIBLE MIND… All of your present feelings, thoughts and decisions are the results of current and past experiences. As you grow older, you should be open to change as you acquire new thoughts and feelings.
BECOMING AN INDIVIDUAL
Once you reach an age where you can interpret your feelings and recognize the importance of your thoughts, you acquire the right to accept or reject or modify everything you have ever read, seen or heard.
Most people are the product of their environment; their thoughts, feelings, goals, values and attitudes are a simple extension of their upbringings. Their religion, fears, likes, dislikes and general attitude about themselves have been programmed into their minds in early life by parents, school, adult authority and peers. The uncluttered minds they had at birth quickly fill with the frustrations and conflict of the world around them. This tremendous accumulation of mental stress is not the fault of the individual; it is brought about by the fact that he was, because of his age, a captive of his environment. His mind during his early growth period acts like a sponge, constantly absorbing everything it encounters. If the parents are always uptight because of financial pressure or personal conflicts, a lot of their teaching and philosophies about life will be directly related to their personal struggle for survival. The child will absorb these. The child, like the parent, is just trying to survive. Unfortunately the child does not have the intellectual experience to draw from when encountering pressure, conflict and mental stress. He just responds with emotional confusion. It is no wonder that most adults are insecure, have low self-esteem and are without any personal identity.
There is nothing wrong with learning other people’s thoughts, feelings, values and personal beliefs. This vast amount of information can be an invaluable asset in your own development. The problem begins when you reach an age of reasoning and continue to follow those learned values and beliefs without making them your own. You are very special. All of your thoughts and feelings are unlike anyone else’s. Your motivation, beliefs, and interpretations of life are unique to you.
Most people never try to sort out their beliefs from the ones they were taught. They go through life constantly confused with the conflicts which exist in their minds. Their rational logic tells them one thing and their emotions tell them something else. This frustration is the end result of their present ability to think and understand coming into conflict with earlier religious, academic and parental teachings. Only the individual is able to sort through this mental mess and arrive at a successful answer. One way to simplify the elimination of the problem is to expose the problem distinctly so you can see where to focus your energy. In order to bring the problem out into clear light, you need to establish personal communication.
VAGUE VS PRECISE MEMORY
The mind, although very powerful, has a simple flaw – it is easily confused. Goals or words that are vague, allow too many options of choice. The goal of wanting to be happy seems simple enough, yet is very obscure to the sub-conscious. What elements make up happiness? Marriage, self confidence, financial success, good health??? Where does the sub-conscious start in its efforts to make you happy? It can actually flow as precisely as a computer, as long as it has clearly defined information to follow. To have your subconscious and conscious work together as a team, they need to have a clear understanding of the specific area of concern, regardless of the topic. The more you define and clarify, the less confusion is in the mind’s search for solutions. Each of the DD programs emphasizes the defining of the word or area of choice before moving on to make the desired changes. The DD program deals specifically with the individual developing the skills for expanding the positive and neutralizing the negative emotional memories.
Once you become a member, you are elgible to join our 101% group. The individual agrees to, once they select an area of concern, make a timeline and send in monthly reports of their progress. The DDI will make note of any progress and question any deviation from the individuals commitment. The DDI is presently working on methods to motivate and stimulate consistancy in the members efforts, and is open to any suggestions on how to better the program. Also, the DDI is working on a Skype personal guide plan, for those wanting more detailed one to one interaction on the program.